Topic 3: Relationships

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D on your answer sheet to indicate the correct word or phrase that best fits each the numbered blanks.

In some sense, the way we manage our social connections on Facebook is no different from how we build relationships offline. The need for (1) _____________ is one of the most basic motivations underlying social behavior. We use Facebook to maintain a positive social identity and satisfy needs for acceptance and social affiliation.

One study, conducted by researchers in New Zealand, looked into how people weaved Facebook into their daily lives. They were primarily interested in the social dimensions of Facebook, (2)___________ they divided into two categories: direct and indirect actions. Direct actions include messaging, chat, wall posts, comments, photo tagging, and “likes.” Indirect actions are those where an individual looks at a friend’s profile or reads that person’s status updates. Most Facebook users initiate a combination of direct and indirect actions when they use the website. Some do this quite (3)__________, with nearly a third of users (31%) posting daily status updates.

The social benefits of using Facebook to communicate with friends and build relationships are mixed. Researchers at Carnegie Mellon University and Facebook analyzed the server logs of more than a thousand Facebook users over a period of two months, and conducted a survey to ask users about how close they feel to their friends, and the frequency with which they make new social connections. They found that Facebook users who engaged (4)__________ greater direct actions (messaging, commenting) reported greater bridging (making new friends), social bonding, and self-esteem. (5)______________, users who had a record of more indirect actions and passive consumption (refreshing the news feed, reading friends’ status updates and viewing their profiles) reported more frequent feelings of loneliness and lower self-esteem.

(Adapted from https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog)

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct word that best fits each of the numbered blanks from 25 to 29.

Do you ever wish you were more optimistic, someone who always expected to be successful? Having someone around (25) ____ always fears the worst isn’t really a lot of fun - we all know someone who sees a single cloud on a sunny day and says, “It looks like rain”. But if you catch yourself thinking such things, it’s important to do something about it.

You can change your view of life, according to psychologists. It only takes a little (26) ____, and you’ll find life more rewarding as a result. Optimism, they say, is partly about self-respect and confidence but it’s also a more (27) ____ way of looking at life and all it has to result offer. Optimists are more likely to start new projects and generally more prepared to take risks.

Upbringing is obviously very important (28) ____ forming your attitude to the world. Some people are brought up to depend too much on others and grow up forever blaming other people when anything goes wrong. Most optimists, on the other hand, have been brought up not to regard failure as the end of the world - they just (29) ____ with their lives.

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct word that best fits each of the numbered blanks from 1 to 5.

Do you know that your place on the family ladder may have certain effects on the sort of person you grow up to be? You may be the only child, the eldest, youngest or (1) _______ one; you may be the youngest of three boys or the eldest girl with a younger brother and sister. All the different combinations of relationships will have helped to (2) __________ you the person you are. The number of years between your siblings and you also helps to shape your character.

Knowing such details about your best friend or loved one (3) _______ also tell you about the type of friend or partner he needs. For example, a boy with a younger sister would normally get along much better (4) ______ a girl who has an older brother than with a girl who has a younger brother. Similarly, if your girlfriend is the oldest in her family, she would probably be domineering.

Fortunately for all of us, family psychology is not (5) _______ accurate. There are always exceptions to the rule. Most important of all, we should always judge people according to who they are, not the relatives they have.

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Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct word that best fits each of the blanks from 1 to 5.

Love covers a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection to the simplest pleasure. An example of this range of (1) ____________________ is that the love of a mother differs from the love of a wife, which also differs from the love of food. Most commonly, it (2) ______________ to a feeling of strong attraction and deep emotional attachment.

Love is considered to be both positive and negative; with its virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection, as “the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”; and its vice representing human moral flaw, (3) ______________ to vanity, selfishness, amour-propre, and egotism, as it potentially leads people into a type of mania, obsessiveness or codependency. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions (4) _____________________ other humans, one’s self or animals. In its various forms, love acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in creative arts. Love has, supposedly, a function to keep human beings (5) ___________________ against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the human species.

(Adapted from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love)

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C, or D to indicate the correct word or phrase that best fits each of the numbered blanks from 1 to 5.

If you see someone who’s looking blue, just reach out and offer a kind word, a smile, a hug. Sometimes people just feel (1) ____ they need someone to care. Maybe they’re confused and not sure what’s going on just in the moment, or in a bigger picture such as where their lives are (2) ____. The purpose of our lives is to love, laugh, be happy and to grow together, sharing with one another. If we are all too busy (3) ____ someone who is in emotional need, it can leave the person wondering what’s the real point of everything. By reaching out and smiling, showing compassion, listening, offering a (4) ____ of gentle advice, you remind both yourself and the (5) ____ what the bigger picture is, and bring a little burst of more light and happiness into the world. Enough of those bursts and lights contribute to the tipping point towards a more compassionate and joyful world.

Love stories often include people finding partners who seem to have traits that they lack, like a good girl falling for a bad boy. In this way, they appear to complement one another. For example, one spouse might be outgoing and funny while the other is shy and serious. It’s easy to see how both partners could view the other as ideal – one partner’s strengths balancing out the other partner’s weaknesses.

The question is whether people actually seek out complementary partners or if that just happens in the movies.. There is essentially no research evidence that differences in personality, interests, education, politics, upbringing, religion or other traits lead to greater attraction. For example, in one study researchers found that college students preferred descriptions of mates whose written bios were similar to themselves or their ideal self over those described as complementing themselves.

Despite the overwhelming evidence, why does the myth of heterogamy endure? There’s evidence that small differences between spouses can become larger over time. In their self-help book “Reconcilable Differences,” psychologists Andrew Christensen, Brian Doss and Neil Jacobson describe how partners move into roles that are complementary over time. For example, if one member of a couple is slightly more humorous than the other, the couple may settle into a pattern in which the slightly-more-funny spouse claims the role of “the funny one” while the slightly-less-funny spouse slots into the role of “the serious one.”

In the end, people’s attraction to differences is vastly outweighed by our attraction to similarities. People persist in thinking opposites attract – when in reality, relatively similar partners just become a bit more complementary as time goes by.

(Source: https://theconversation.com/)

Most sexual assault and violence in schools is committed by people who know their victims — they’re either dating, friends, or classmates. Regardless, they have a relationship of some sort, which is why a focus on relationships and empathy is crucial to reducing violence and preparing students for more meaningful lives.

And while it might seem uncomfortable to move beyond the cut-and-dried facts of contraception into the murkier waters of relationships, students are hungry for it. A survey by researchers at the Harvard Graduate School of Education’s Making Caring Common initiative found that 65 percent of young-adult respondents wished they had talked about relationships at school.

“It’s so critical that kids are able to undertake this work of learning to love somebody else,” says developmental psychologist Richard Weissbourd, the director of Making Caring Common and lead author of a groundbreaking report called The Talk: How Adults Can Promote Young People’s Healthy Relationships and Prevent Misogyny and Sexual Harassment. “They’re not going to be able to do it unless we get them on the road and are willing to engage in thoughtful conversations.”

Nicole Daley works with OneLove, a nonprofit focused on teen violence prevention. She previously worked extensively with Boston Public Schools on violence prevention. She echoes Weissbourd: A focus on relationships is key to keeping students safe. “If a young person is not in a healthy relationship, they can’t negotiate sex in a meaningful way,” she says. “Really discussing healthy relationships and building that foundation is important. Even if they’re not having sex yet, they’re grappling with the idea of what healthy relationship is.” And it’s critical to start that work before college.

(source: https://www.gse.harvard.edu/)

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C or D to indicate the correct answer to each of the questions.

Altruism is a type of behavior in which an animal sacrifices its own interest for that of another animal or group of animals. Altruism is the opposite of selfishness; individuals performing altruistic acts gain nothing for themselves.

Examples of altruism abound, both among humans and among other mammals. Unselfish acts among humans range from the sharing of food with strangers to the donation of body organs to family members, and even to strangers. Such acts are altruistic in that they benefit another, yet provide little reward to the one performing the act.

In fact, many species of animals appear willing to sacrifice food, or even their life, to assist other members of their group. The meerkat, which is a mammal that dwells in burrows in grassland areas of Africa, is often cited as an example. In groups of meerkats, an individual acts as a sentinel, standing guard and looking out for predators while the others hunt for food or eat food they have obtained. If the sentinel meerkat gains nothing – it goes without food while the others eat, and it places itself in grave danger. After it issues an alarm, it has to flee alone, which might make it more at risk to a predator, since animals in groups are often able to work together to fend off a predator. So, the altruistic sentinel behavior helps ensure the survival of other members of the meerkat’s groups.

Read the following passage and mark the letter A, B, C or D on your answer sheet to indicate the correct answer to each of the questions.

Most young people and their families have some ups and downs during their teenage years, but things usually improve by late adolescence as children become more mature. And family relationships tend to stay strong right through.

For teenagers, parents and families are a source of care and emotional support. Families give teenagers practical, financial and material help. And most teenagers still want to spend time with their families, sharing ideas and having fun. Adolescence can be a difficult time-your child is going through rapid physical changes as well as emotional ups and downs. Young people aren’t always sure where they fit, and they’re still trying to work it out. Adolescence can also be a time when peer influences and relationships can cause you and your child some stress.

During this time your family is still a secure emotional base where your child feels loved and accepted, no matter what’s going on in the rest of his life. Your family can build and support your child’s confidence, self-belief, optimism and identity.

When your family sets rules, boundaries and standards of behavior, you give your child a sense of consistency and predictability. And believe it or not, your life experiences and knowledge can be really useful to your child-she just might not always want you to know that!

Supportive and close family relationships protect your child from risky behavior like alcohol and other drug use, and problems like depression. Your support and interest in what your child is doing at school can boost his desire to do well academically too. Strong family relationships can go a long way towards helping your child grow into a well-adjusted, considerate and caring adult.

The relationship between Britain and the US has always been a close one. Like all close relationship it has had difficult times. The US was first a British colony, but between 1775 and 1783 the US fought a war to become independent. The US fought the British again in the War of 1812.

In general, however, the two countries have felt closer to each other than to any other country, and their foreign policies have shown this. During World War I and World War II, Britain and the US supported each other. When the US looks for foreign support, Britain is usually the first country to come forward and it is sometimes called “the 51st state of union”.

But the special relationship that developed after 1945 is not explained only by shared political interests. An important reason for the friendship is that the people of the two countries are very similar. They share the same language and enjoy each other’s literature, films and television. Many Americans have British ancestors, or relatives still living in Britain. The US government and political system is based on Britain’s, and there are many Anglo-American businesses operating on both sides of the Atlantic. In Britain some people are worried about the extent of US influence, and there is some jealousy of its current power. The special relationship was strong in the early 1980s when Margaret Thatcher was Prime Minister in Britain and Ronald Reagan was President of the US.